Hit That Unfollow Button
No seriously, hit it.
How many times have you found yourself comparing your life to the life of someone you follow on social media? Whether it be Kim Kardashian (Whom I follow by the way, so no shame), your favorite preacher or a good friend from high school. If that person is tearing you down rather than building you up, it’s time to go.
I have recently come across two individuals who spoke/wrote on this very topic. The first, I came across a week or so ago and the second, I came across yesterday. I didn’t think much about the topic until I came across the second individual speaking on the matter and it really made me think. Why do we feel obligated to follow and maintain follows/followers on social media?
it seems like now-a-days, your ‘worth’ is defined by the amount of followers you have on social media. If your not insta or twitter famous who are you? It’s sad that it is this way but it doesn’t have to be. Let’s take a look at the concerns each individual had when it comes to the topic of unfollowing someone.
Individual #1 – Oga Madam at mycosygarden.blogspot.com
I came across this individuals blog post as I was looking something up about Heather Lindsey. Now Ya’ll, Heather Lindsey is one of my favorite preachers and I have absolutely nothing against her. As I made the google search, an article came up called “Why I chose to unfollow Heather Lindsey.” Of course, I was intrigued so I obliged.
The article was written by a lady by the screen name of Oga Madam, and I respect the way she went about the post. Just to summarize the overall post for you, she stated that her reason for unfollowing Heather Lindsey was because she felt as if heather’s lifestyle was “flashy and hard to relate to”. For those of you who are not familiar with heather Lindsey, she lives in a big beautiful house in Atlanta, GA and you’ll never catch her without her hair, makeup and outfit on point. Now, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with this. In fact, I think it’s awesome. But Ms. Madam felt as if heather’s life is very hard to relate to because she never presents herself to us the way we, average middle class people would.
Instead, by following Heather, Ms. Madam felt pressured to present herself and dress in a similar manner and ultimately, felt like she was getting the wrong impression rather than the impression she needed. So she decided to unfollow her.
Individual #2 – RealTalkKim (Kimberly Jones-Pothier)
I was catching up on some of RealTalkKim’s sermons on YouTube and I happened to come across one entitled “10 Keys to Spiritual Breakthrough”. In this sermon she also mentions unfollowing someone and feeling so much happier. Although this was something that she only touched on briefly, it really had an impression on me after reading Ms. Madam’s article a few days prior. that’s when I felt it heavy on my heart to write about this for ya’ll this week.
Take Your Life Back
Just hit that unfollow button. Seriously. I feel like in this generation of social media all day every day, we feel obligated to follow others. The same can be said about how we feel towards others following us. We get offended when we find out that friend we’ve had forever and ever unfollowed us. Or maybe you’re just tired of seeing someone flaunt their lives a certain way. I feel completely silly saying this, but this is truly a struggle in the world today wether we chose to acknowledge it or not; No matter what the reason, there is absolutely no shame in unfollowing someone.
Let me share a quick story with you. When I rededicated my life to christ, one of the first things I did was start over on social media. I deleted my instagram and Twitter and set up all new ones. I only followed the people who would positively influence my life. I kept my facebook but unfriended everyone all the same. Not only that, I cleaned out my YouTube Subscriptions and filtered the music and Netflix shows I watched and listened to. This drastically changed how I interacted with the world and overall I had a much clearer headspace and outlook on life. Not to mention I was better equipped to discern the voice of the Lord.
You are in no way, shape or form obligated to follow someone you don’t wish to follow. If they’re someone big, odds are they wont even notice your gone but your whole outlook on life will change from dropping that one person. So I want to encourage you today, think about the people your following/friends with on social media. Make a decision and remove the negative influences from your life. You are your own person and you are allowed to make decisions to better your life.